"(To become a parent is) is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” So part of our heart was walking around very far away.... across the entire world, in fact. This is the story of our family's adoption journey: the steps we are taking, how we wound up living in Uganda, how we are becoming a family. A year later, I am still writing about how we are becoming a family, and the deeper issues inherent in adoption.
Monday, February 17, 2014
In Non-Tropical Weather, I am a Very Mean Mama
The kids were playing crazily inside all morning, so after lunch I sent them outside instead of straight to quiet time. By the time Buttercup got her outdoor gear on, the other two were ready to come in. I told them that sorry, it was still outside time. I put the visual timer in the window so they could see the rest of their half hour.
With ten minutes left, Hibiscus came in the door. She had been well dressed for the cold, mostly because she got a new snow suit for her birthday, so she was wearing it.
"It's raining," she complained.
"Then put your hood up," I replied.
She came in the door and started to take her coat off, which is kind of the opposite of preparing for the rain.
"Hibiscus, your outside time is not over yet," I warned her.
"I know, but it's raining!" she exclaimed.
"I heard you the first time. And did I answer, 'go ahead and come in,' or did I say 'then put your hood up'?"
She has experimented approximately every day about coming inside because she has taken off appropriate outdoor clothes, and discovered that I don't actually let her in. Yesterday I found her sitting in the patio doorway, which was open around her. We discussed outdoor time being over, which it wasn't, so I told her to go back outside so I could close the door. She didn't. She wanted to comb her doll's hair. I told her to do it outside. She still waited. I told her I needed to shut the door.
"So say that thing that you say, and I'll do it," she said.
"Please sit outside to comb your doll's hair," I repeated.
"No, when you say, go in or go out, so I can shut the door," she suggested. "Then I'll do that."
Yeah, nice try, kiddo, but that's one more choice than I'm prepared to offer!
So today she guessed that more arguing about coming inside might not get her very far, and she slinked outside again. Immediately afterword, Emerson came up to the door, not dressed very properly for the weather. I tell them to put on the right clothes, and I insist that they take the clothes with them, but I don't choose to make a fight about whether they actually put them on their bodies. They can choose to be cold if they really want to.
"It's still outdoor time, so please go back outside," I warned him as he came in.
"It's raining," he announced sulkily.
"So put your hood up, and you'll be fine," I advised.
"But I'm too cold!" he wailed.
"Then put your coat on," I suggested. Not exactly for the first time.
"It's too cold even WITH the coat!" he yelled.
Which is a little difficult to ascertain, given that he had not tried that method yet.
"I KNOW I'm going to be cold if I put my coat on," he sulked. Which is possibly true, since he hadn't been wearing a coat for the last half hour or so already.
"Well, you're going to be less cold with your coat on than with your coat off," I reasoned.
"But I'm coming IN!!!" he yelled. As he kicked off his boots and snowpants.
"No, you're not," I announced. And I put him and his boots and his snowpants outside. And his coat.
Last I saw, he was wearing them all. And do you know what? All the kids were having fun, too.
Labels:
daily life,
funny moments,
mothering,
winter
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